ADHD, Procrastination, Difficulty Getting Motivated, Relationships & Communication

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ADHD: Procrastination & Difficulty Getting Motivated

How to avoid washing a car by Kevin the teenager.

I can relate to Kevin.

Can you?

Procrastination and difficulty with getting motivated can be a nightmare at the best of times.
ADHD symptoms can often be incorrectly and ‘unfairly’ perceived as ‘laziness’ or a lack of work ethic by others.

ADHD: The Importance of Good Communication in Relationships

Having ADHD can cause strain on your relationships with others. Co existing with a person who has Attention Deficit Disorder can also present much difficulty.

What a person with ADHD needs to know:

ADHD should never be used to excuse poor, unreliable or inconsistent behavior – it may be helpful, however, to explain the reasons behind our behavior and personal struggles to those we are close to.
In turn, we need to also own up to and take responsibility for actions when dealing with our others or even ourselves.
If we have inconvenienced or caused irritation to someone we care about (or even just a stranger who didn’t deserve it) then we should offer an apology when an apology is called for, even if we haven’t intended to cause any problems or have done so unknowingly.
If someone you care about is trying to communicate something to you about yourself – allow them an opportunity to explain themselves to you and try to listen without interrupting or objecting.
They may just be trying to help you or tell you something because they are your friend. Try to recognise the intention of a person; is this person important to you? If so, hear them out and allow yourself time to consider what they are trying to tell you.

What a person living with a person with ADHD needs to know:

Due to unfair perceptions of ADHD behavior by others, i.e being called lazy, unreliable, unpunctual, not pulling your weight, underachieving etc… persons with ADHD can carry alot of self esteem issues.

ADHD persons can therefore be difficult to approach, defensive and extremely sensitive to criticism. They may have struggled for years with a lack of understanding over themselves and their behaviors; feeling clueless as to why their own expectations of themselves or expectations from others don’t seem to match. The frustration and overall emotional impact that a person with living with ADHD may feel should not be underestimated.

The majority of symptoms caused by ADHD are due to brain-wiring. An ADHD brain does not produce an efficient amount of dopamine, which is a chemical associated with reward. This is what an ADHD brain looks like compared with an average brain!

When attempting to communicate a problem to a person with ADHD, it is always best to assure them of your support and let them know that you care for them.
Don’t condescend or patronise; don’t pander to them either.
Let them know you have something important to say to them and if necessary – calmly ask if it is possible for them to wait until you are finished speaking before they react to what you say.

People with ADHD also have strengths and positive qualities; praise – where it is due – along with commendation, can also be offered so long as it is genuine and sincere.

 

 

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